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Once decided to marry, be clear about your preferences regarding
status, age, qualification, job, Income etc. preferably by discussing
with all parties concerned.
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Present the Bio-data & Horoscope neatly with all relevant details. It
is better to get them Printed/Xeroxed along with suitable covering
letter. First impression is the best impression!
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Photos play a vital role. Send only recent ones. Have adequate
copies.
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"Horoscope matching" is a part of our belief system. Consult a good
Astrologer instead of deciding on "half-baked" knowledge. No two
astrologers agree! But it can't be helped!
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Never reject stars such as Moolam, Ayilyam etc., just like that. They
are neither 'dangerous' nor 'untouchables'.
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Enlarge your area of selection by accepting other sub sects also.
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Verify the genuiness of the data tactfully and carefully. Visit the
parties in person. Collect references.
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Give adequate importance for 'Manapporutham' also (Likes, Dislikes,
Values, Priorities, Beliefs, Culture etc.,)
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Meeting of Bride and Groom - Choose the appropriate stage and Venue.
Allow them to interact freely.
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Be clear on the terms and Conditions before the Nischayathartham. Do
not proceed on assumptions. Never commit yourself beyond limits.
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Do not give over importance for qualification and income and never
get carried away by the charms of external appearance. Inner qualities
and Family background are in fact more important.
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Doing business? So what? Go ahead, if well talented and well
established.
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Nothing wrong in accepting persons with minor disability. It must be
taken as a matter of pride and not shame.
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Never get dejected over delay in getting suitable alliances.
Continue your efforts through all sources - Advertisements, Marriage
Bureaus, Web sites, Swayamavaras, etc., without minding the cost which
is only minimal compared to the marriage expenses.
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Avoid lavish spending in marriages. However, ensure compliance of
all basic formalities rituals and courtesies.
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Post marital stage -initial period is the most challenging one.
Everyone has to handle it in well-matured manner.
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Read the above points once again and put tem into practice.
Help others. Help will come to you!
